What is our conception of God? Where do we get our conception of God from? These are important questions to ask yourself because too often we end up with a conception about God that is based on our own psychological history. It is not uncommon for people to form beliefs about God based on their relationship to their earthly fathers. Maybe your father was distant. This would incline you to think that God is a distant being. Maybe your father was harsh and demanding. This would incline you to think that God is harsh and legalistic. Your relationship to your father does in fact influence how you think about God.
This should be no surprise. God has set the world up in this way and this shows the importance of being a good father. But of course we live in a fallen world and fathers are not perfect. This is one of the reasons God gave us his Word. He gave it to us to correct our false beliefs about Him that we may have inherited from our upbringing. Pastoral counseling so often consists of clearing up false beliefs about God that so frequently are rooted in the counselees experience with his or her father. One frequent area is in the assurance of God’s favor towards the counselee.
Since the Reformation, numerous book shave been written that deal with this issue of assurance. One such book I have been reading is called The Bruised Reed by Richard Sibbes. I recently came across a wonderful quote that I wanted to share with you. He writes, There are those who go on in all courses of life on this pretence, that it would be useless to go to Christ, because their lives have been so bad; whereas, as soon as we look to heaven, all encouragements are ready to meet us and draw us forward. Among others, this is one allurement, that Christ is ready to welcome us and lead us further. None are damned in the church but those that are determined to be, including those who persist in having hard thoughts of Christ, that they may have some show of reason to fetch contentment from other things, as that unprofitable servant (Matt. 25:30) who would needs take up the opinion that his master was a hard man, thereby to flatter himself in his unfruitful ways, in not improving the talent which he had.
— Michael Preciado


